I have officially been working in family law for five years now. Five years. It's kind of hard to believe. It's not a field I ever imagined I'd be working in. To be honest, I don't think anyone grows up thinking, "I want to do divorce when I grow up." Do you?
This journey called life is always bringing me to unexpected destinations. And in honor of five years in this little career of mine, I thought I'd share with you five things the last five years have taught me. Now I have never been married or divorced, so take this advice for what it is, simply five years of observing the end of marriage.
1) If you're going to get divorced, make sure you really mean it. Because if you end up remarried to the same person and divorce them again, it's always more expensive the second time around.
2) Think twice before you act on your emotions at the beginning of a divorce (or just always think twice). Because it's very likely the Judge will grant you the house that's deck is missing because you got mad and ripped it off with a backhoe.
3) There are no winners in divorce court. It's usually better if you are able to work together to come up with your own agreement, than to let the Judge decide.
4) Love is a choice you have to make each and every moment of each and every day. Especially the days when you're sick and tired of picking up dirty socks off the bathroom floor. And the best you can hope for is that you choose someone who chooses you and all of your flaws.
5) If you haven't found that person yet, don't worry. It's always better to be happily single than unhappily married. And there are a lot of unhappily married people in this world.